LET IT GO

I know a lot of people live by the rules of ‘let it go’ or ‘move on’. Some even say the earlier you face the hurt the easier it is to move on from it. Oh well, maybe there is a point to that. I know a ton of people that have rolled up their sleeves, adjusted their collars and moved out of bad situations so fast they stumbled into better days. But I’ve also seen people take this same advice and in a hurry to rip the bandage off, and let go of their past and pain, end up in way worse situations.

Let’s take a moment to appreciate God for the extra thick skin he gave the black man cause without it, the number of depressed black men would be ridiculously high. I have nothing against people that can with so much confidence and finesse, pick up the scraps and build something magnificent or in respect to the phrase ‘make lemonade out of lemonades’. Its admirable on all levels.

Personally though, I’m a fan of Time. I don’t believe that all fingers are equal and thus I believe that everyone should dance to their own tune. Only you knows where it hurts, and this gives you autonomy to sew your life thread by thread. There are no guidelines to letting go and moving on. As healthy as walking through the coals of the past is and as relieving as dropping a baggage is, the process is important.

There is way too much pressure on the polished end product of smiles, slaying brows and popping lips that no one takes a minute to appreciate the process. When the process is skipped, I personally feel that the end result is a walking time bomb waiting to explode. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for dusting your feet and focusing on the future; but most importantly I think all these should be done at each person’s pace without the unnecessary craving for perfection. In the real essence, it isn’t the hurt that should be let go, it is the pressure of rushing the process that should be let go. Don’t undermine people’s struggles and coping mechanisms; respect their process. This is in no way an accolade to self destructive life styles all in the name of ‘hurting’ ( we will deal with that later ya’ll). But signing out, I’ll say yes!!, Let it go! ( in Elsa’s voice), let as much pain and overwhelming emotions as you feel go, but always remember that the wheel is in your hand and only you determine your pace and destination.