LEAKING LIPS

As silly as the statement, “drink water and mind your business” seems, it is one of the most basic underlying principles that should guide everyday interactions. I always found this statement to be silly and would always silently scoff at people that would bash their statuses with it; well, this was until I started paying a closer attention to interactions around me and I realised that about 70% of the time, when you come across people discussing, they are conversing on things that have no direct connection to them. It’s almost like they were paid to sit around and just have a colloquy about everything and nothing.

In our generation, it is a plague that is slowly ravaging us. It is this same habit that breeds other things like back-biting, which in turn vomits malice and hatred. That is why it’s no surprise that a lot of people have beefs with faceless individuals igniting from a gist they heard, whether or not they are sure about its authenticity. The first time I realised how sick most of us are, was the day I was walking with a friend and it was so awkward cause we literally had nothing to say to each other; we both knew it was awkward and then my friend started talking about a gist she heard about someone else and just like that, every atom of awkwardness was gone.

Thinking about it now, I realise that a lot of relationships are founded on how many irrelevant topics you can offer and hardly any intelligent discussion that can stimulate a drive for success or perseverance towards the glamorous life we all want to live. Its surprising how this simple art of minding ones business, if mastered, can solve a lot of our problems. It is this art that births the wisdom of knowing when to speak, deciphering between things that need to be voiced and things that should be thrown out. It goes further into realising that it is not everything you see that you comment on; and a lot of us will come to realise that there is a subtle line between being blunt and blabbering. Funny how even the sensitive topic of body shaming can be stopped by this very art.

A deliberate effort to engage in at least one productive conversation a day can be the trigger you need until anything that isn’t stimulating you mentally becomes repulsive. Therefore, Fill the holes in your lips, place a sieve between your eyes and mouth and grow a refuse bin within, where all the unproductive conversations can be buried never to be heard.