Build Your CONFIDENCE With The RIGHT BLOCKS!

Confidence is not a talent that we are born with. Sadly, it is a virtue that we all have to learn because it is a weapon we are required to wield in order to win in life. A not-so-standard definition of confidence would be the strong belief a person has in their ability to do things, a feeling of self-assurance, self-reliance, self-respect and self-esteem. This means that a person is assured, secure and satisfied in themselves and has respect for their abilities.

We spend a formidable part of our lives trying to discover our identities, trying to find where we belong and fix ourselves there, and ascertain what we believe in by sieving and choosing from the plethora of ideologies and belief systems that exist in our world. We also try to juxtapose our newly found personalities and beliefs with things that come naturally to us (talents and features) and present it to our environment, which of course refers to the people around us. We learn to be comfortable in our skin and embrace our personalities, flaws and all.

The hard part in this, is the process of building our self-esteem or self-confidence. Some people find themselves in an environment that hinders their self-confidence, and makes them pass through years of feeling insufficient and not-good-enough, and has had them put their hands in different things all in the bid to make them feel better about themselves and help “boost their confidence” (low self-esteemed/ inferiority-complexed fellows). Some others find themselves in an environment that fosters the development of their self-esteem and confidence to the extent that it might seem as if such people were born confident, however, this is a healthy feeling of self-worth (the high self-esteemed fellows).

Some people are there too, in an environment that has seemingly, “helped” in their self-esteem growth, but have utilized the wrong building blocks and are a stumbling blocks to others (the inflated self-esteemed/superiority-complexed fellows). This lot see themselves as superior to others and feed their self-esteem by capitalizing on the insecurities of other people. They do not know another way of feeling confident about themselves, so they look down on other people and make them feel insufficient in order to boost their ego. Most people suffering from this complex have a sense of insufficiency and inferiority underlying their personalities and as such, try to mask it by acting superior to others. They can go any length to prove their superiority

While it is important to build your sense of self-worth, self-reliance and self-confidence, it is more important that you use the right building blocks in order to achieve this; do not look down on yourself because your environment has made you feel insufficient. Focus on your achievements, stop comparing yourself to other people, accept yourself for who you are and love yourself regardless of your flaws, that is the first step to victory.

It is bad to downplay and underestimate your abilities, but it is worse yet, to achieve a sense of self-confidence by leeching on the inabilities of others and capitalizing on their insecurities. Instead of this, capitalize on your own abilities, learn to focus on what you have and learn to be proud of it and be eager to share it. That way you are growing your confidence level in a healthy way and leaving people out of it.

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