THIS LIFE NO BALANCE

With these few years of mine, I have come to the safe conclusion that, people only let you see what they want you to see. How did I realise this wisdom, you ask? Well, lets just say it sprung from my self pity and the continual saying of the slang “this life no balance”. I had reached the point where every Instagram post made me question my account balance and my life in general and where every glimpse of people’s love lives made me sigh and say “e be things”.

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This was until I had to tell my heart to calm down because the reality is that this life indeed no balance, which is why I cannot kill myself. The good thing about feeling sorry for yourself is that if you’re smart enough and in love with your mental health, you start to see things clearly and then you give yourself a pep talk. So I slowly came to the realisation that out here in the streets, ain’t nobody airing their dirty laundry for the world to see.

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Everything is about perspective. You have to gradually and consciously remind yourself that there is more than meets the eye. Am I saying that these people are fake? No, but I am saying that there is no need to put yourself under unnecessary pressure just because the person beside you is on a 4 hours call with their partner while you interlock your fingers and imagine it is someone else holding you. Do not be quick to look down on yourself or water down your accomplishments just because the next person seems to be doing better. It is only you as an individual that knows where it hurts, and I have come to realise that people would rather keep a straight face and pose for social media than cry for help.

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The pressure is so real, it’s slowly driving us crazy. I guess the day I first learnt this lesson was when a friend, who to me was in a perfect relationship that I had envied for a long time, burst into tears and gave the whole “behind the scenes” struggles that no one had ever heard of. I had to pause and come to the realization that I had been beating up myself, wishing for something that someone was desperately trying to throw away. But like I said, this life no balance.

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Sometimes we spend so much time living in other peoples shoes and wondering how our lives would be if we were born into their worlds. Well, here’s a check for you; you are yourself, you’re where you are right now and sorry, no amount of “I wish I was this person” would change that. But before you dive into a sea of self pity and comparison, remember that we are all humans striving to find our paths in this world. The best thing you can do for yourself, is to grow into someone you can always envy. Picture the best version of yourself and be that person. Not someone else but an updated version of yourself.